before i married my husband i only knew him for 3 months and i got pregnant. i married him because i was pregnant. no one made me it was my choice however i only wanted to get married legally without a wedding or at church because i felt weird since i barely knew him and was pregnant. however him and my mom little by little made it into a small wedding where i wore her dress she used for her vow renewal and we had cake and food and a ceremony. we didnt do personal vows because i felt like that would be really fake since i barely knew him i didnt want to stand there and say a bunch of things i didnt mean. i was really nauseated that day being pregnant w twins and being a wedding i didnt want in the first place but went through with it. so anyways now its been a couple of years and we want to have our actual wedding. the one where im actually marrying the man i love. and i just dont know if to call it my wedding (even though that is what it is to me) or just call it a vow renewal. Also we had originally agreed to get married just by law and later have a wedding when i wasnt pregnant but it didnt go that way.