Unaffectionate husband

So I just want to say that I have the best husband who loves me and takes care of me. But my husband is unaffectionate, and I feel lonely and unloved. I know he loves me, but sometimes I wish he could trade places with me so he could understand.

See he grew up in a separated family, his mom remarried once to a man who was not nice, yelled all the time and showed 0 affection toward his mom or the kids. And his dad has been married 4 times, and has been engaged 5 times in the last 5 years. So he is not used to having affection or giving it. Where I am opposite, I grew up in a home where my parents kissed every time they passed each other. Daddy would give each of us a hug, or handshake every time he passed us, and mom would do the same. We got a hug and kiss on the cheek every morning when we woke up and before bedtime. And I have never seen my parents fight once in my life! They have been together for 51 years!

This is my problem, I miss the affection, I miss goodnight hugs and kisses, and morning hugs and kisses. I miss being hugged multiple times a day, and anytime I talk to my husband about it it’s a huge argument. He always clams that I am trying to change him, and that he is never going to change. But I’m not trying to change him, I just need more! I understand we have two completely different lives, and grew up different ways, but it’s killing my that I’m not getting affection. I feel broken and unloved.

I can’t change him, but he should want to work hard on making me feel loved right? I mean am I wrong to be feeling this way? I just feel lost and lonely.