So I love my husband and he is a good man and a good father, but he is just a total mess when it comes to helping around the house and helping with baby...

I’ve pretty much accepted the helping around the house thing. We’ve been together 4 years and nothing has changed. He’s a great provider so I’ve kinda just let it go because it’s not worth the battle.

Now we have a 4 month old son. I can tell you, I was born to be a mom. I hadn’t held a baby under the age of 1 until a couple months before my baby boy was born. Once he was here, my maternal instinct kicked in like none other. I feel so blessed. Here’s what’s driving me crazy:

My husband doesn’t help with baby unless I ask him to. He’ll hold the baby and such but when it comes to knowing to change a diaper, rocking him or swinging him when he’s not hungry or has any other need and is just fussy, or packing for daycare which starts tomorrow, I’m on my own...

I tried to talk to him tonight and ask him very nicely to try to help a little more with the baby holding, the middle of the night hours when he doesn’t want to go back to sleep, the bottle prep, etc. and his response was that I was calling him a piece of s$:t. Like I don’t get it. I do all the housework, all of the finances and budgeting, and a hefty portion of the baby duty. I’m also really working hard on our intimacy because I’ve had some postpartum pain.

He mows the lawn (small lawn, we’re In Los Angeles). The least he can do is say “sure honey, I’ll try to help more with Travis...” like wtf?? I have a job too !

I’m simply looking for advice or experiences that worked when attempting to communicate that you need more help when you’re at your wits end as a new mom.

Pic for attention for my little T-bird!