Dear husband

I do love you. And I’m sorry to say this but I really need you to step up. Our child is 1, I know you spent most of her first year working away but you should be able to help more with her - I should be able to go to the toilet without you bringing her to me. It’s not right or fair for you to want nothing to do with her because you need to get some dinner, or your busy getting ready for work or your busy cleaning. What do you think I do?? I have her with me doing all that then go to work come home and start again. I know you have an important job. I know your child hood was crap. I know your father did the best he could but couldn’t cope and would walk away or take you to your grand or by the way your being, be rough with you but that’s not for our child. I dont want to leave. I promised I won’t. And whilst I don’t believe you will hurt our child deliberately I’m worried your anxieties/annoyances etc will get the better of you and you’ll push the dummy in too hard - the first sign of this I will leave an you won’t have contact without me or someone around. I need you to go back to counselling and tell them how you feel about her not feeling like yours maybe they can help. I’ve told you what to do but you won’t as you feel silly.

I need help hun. I’m scared. I’m trying to be strong for you and her but out of the two of you I HAVE to choose her. She is defenceless and whilst I know you will see this as an attack/me bailing on you like your mum did but your a grown man now not a child even tho that you need me to stay.

I’m going to be here to help but the first sign that our child is in slight trouble - I’m gone. I’m sorry.

Love me