Hi ladies. So a bit of background information before my question. Ever since my fiancè and I got engaged, my future in-laws have been ver nosey in our wedding planning process, whereas my parents have been very hands-off unless we ask for an opinion.

My to be mother-in-law is the biggest problem. She seems to think the wedding is all about her, not us. She literally created a list of things she wanted OUR WEDDING to have, and then got mad when we told her no. At this point, all of her ideas make my fiancè and I feel like we'd be guests at our own wedding. Which is stupid, because the day is about us and our commitment to one another.

Anyway, my fiancé recently brought up to me that he wants his mom to marry us. She was training to be a pastor but was never actually ordained (? ... sorry, I'm Catholic 😬). We agreed to get married in the Lutheran Church so, no, that's not my issue with this. It's more so the fact that she has tried to manipulate our plans so many times without having an "in" so to speak, and I think if she's our minister that will give it to her. I'm honestly surprisedhe wants this after all the shit that's happened (there's soooo much more but I attempted to keep this short).

How do I tell him that without offending him/calling his mom a manipulative b**** who thinks our wedding is all about her??? (Obvi I know not to say that last bit but it is how I'm f eeling). Thanks in advance!