Update

Hello ladies,

I’m back to give you an update. So we spoke about the girl and this is what happened. Now let me say that the conversations between him and the girl do not go as he says it does and you’ll see how simple he makes it out to be. I’ve seen the conversations myself in the past and this is the reason why I get bothered with him. I would not get bothered by a simple stupid “how you doing text.”

I totally understand his position when he says he doesn’t want to upset me or make us mad at each other but that makes me feel terrible for thinking things. So I’m confused. Idk...

Anyways...more stuff to tell.

As to what I found last night. Completely caught me off guard. So a few months back I gave my bf an old iPhone I had because his was messed up. So I had taken it back to put away and last night was looking at it to erase anything on it just in case my mom or anyone else would need it in the future. So I came about the gmail app and when I went to sign him out, I noticed the first few emails with kissy faces in the preview and hearts and the name of a female. So I opened up the first email and there goes a long thread of about 17 emails back and forth to a woman from another country. Speaking about payment for a video. Not of sex but of a fetish that he has. I found specific instructions for this woman including clothing, shoes, place...etc. I was so upset that yes I continued to look through this email account as I noticed that it was his junk/hiding email where he does this stuff. I found multiple messages with different women where he was asking for the same type of video. In all the emails none of the women agree to show their face. It’s strictly a video to look at the woman walk in insanely high heels and tight clothing. Now he has been paying these woman for these videos through PayPal. Like some of these payments are insane considering he isn’t working and has bills and credit card debt to pay. Like I see these payments of $40, 50 to even $90. Now these emails go back to 2016 ladies! He has told me in the past of this fetish but never to this extent. I’m not at all sure if I’m comfortable with this situation as I just found out. We have been dating since the end of 2014. I also found an email sent to Uber where he emails Uber to request the info of a female passenger who he pooled with. Now this was at the end of last year but I can only now imagine if he has done this before or again after?

Ladies I’m just asking for your input as to what would you do? How would you handle this? How do I bring this up and should I? Like idk? Help a girl out pls.

Mel