Hello everyone,

Me and my spouse have been together for a year now. We celebrated our anniversary all this week. Yesterday it took a turn for what felt like the worst.

*Back story: When I am under a lot of stress I tend to talk in my sleep or I get up from my sleep very fast and display major anxiety. Takes me about 60 seconds to snap out of it. Sometimes I wake up from a dream and still feels like I am in my dream when I am actually awake.”

So last night around 4AM my spouse was laying on another bed on the floor due to back problems...I didnt know this, I panicked for some reason and went to get up. I started to look for my phone so I can use the light to see. He started flashing his phone light at me asking me if I was okay and what was I doing. I said I was scared and looking for my phone.

By 4:42AM this turned into a big ordeal. He started to tell me he thinks I should pack my things, give him my key to his apartment which I’ve had all year & leave... its still before 5AM so I am sitting on the bed like really? Is this really happening?

We go back and forth & he starts to tell me it isnt safe for us to sleep together until I get some medical attention to figure out why this happens to me. He stated because of his previous combat tours if he doesnt see me and if he calls out for me and I dont respond that its not going to be good for me and that he doesn’t want to hurt me. He stated he is wired to jump, while I am the scared one in a corner of the bed. I cried so much. By 5:15AM I figured theres not much else for me to do but to pack my stuff and go home. So when I searched for cabs and was about to get all my stuff he pulls me back & ask me if leaving the light on will help me sleep better. I said yes it will. He cuddled with me and we fell asleep. *WTH*

Fast forward to now, I am awake he is asleep and I cannot stop thinking about how fast he was able to tell me to get out. Though he stopped me I cant help but think about what he truly feels for me and if what we have is genuine. I love him with all my heart but I can’t imagine him feeling the same with the way he wanted to handle the situation.

I never seen him this way until now. I understand 100% that he has done many things and seen many things but if he states he will just react vs making sure its not me... well that is scary to me.

What do I do? Has anyone experienced something similar with a spouse who has been through combat. He was in combat for 8 years but its been about 11 years since he got out. Im still hurt from the things he said to me. Never thought things would go south just because of my own stress and sleeping habits.

First care package for my man ❤️😍

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