Virgin! Help! Need advice!

I’m 16 and a virgin. I.need.help. I want to do it but I’m scared it’s going to hurt and terrified that I’ll get pregnant cause everything usually goes wrong for me and I feel like the one time I get the balls to do it something is gonna go wrong. Btw I am talking to a guy and he’s so sweet. And my moms a helicopter parent so toys and porn to maybe get me used to it are out of the question. Someone please help!

Update: I’ve had boyfriends before and I have fallen in love. “Your only 16 you don’t know what love is” but trust me I do. And it didn’t work out so I’m not waiting for someone I “love” please don’t judge we all have our own things.

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Ju

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It’s okay to be scared. But if you are really this paranoid about it hurting or nervous about the whole situation then it’s probably because you are rushing it. Maybe waiting a bit more could fix it ? Or dating that guy for a longer time ? Trust me I was dating my bf for 3 years and I was so paranoid of pregnancy and of it hurting a lot. Until one day I was just ready and instead of being scared I felt excited! Whenever you do decide to do it for the first time just make sure you guys have a condom and that you trust and love this boy so much. You need to be vocal and let him know when it’s hurting, tell him to go slow and guide him.

TL

TL • Jul 10, 2018
Thank you!!!

Ke

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I agree with what most people are saying, if you are really scared and feel nervous, you probably aren’t ready, I mean don’t get me wrong it is a situation that you will probably get a little nervous for but if it’s really eating you up, it’s probably not the right time

Br

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First thing is you need to be on birth control. & if you are scared you shouldn’t be doing anything you don’t want to do. For your first time, I believe you should be in love with the person it’s supposed to be special.

Br

Breana • Jul 9, 2018
If you go to your doctor they legally cannot tell your mom anything!

TL

TL • Jul 9, 2018
Thank you! I just can’t get on birth control cause my mom won’t put me on it. She thinks that’s like giving me even more of a reason to have sex.

wo

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I waited for my husband at 18 and it was magic. I didn’t care if it would hurt I just loved him so much and wanted to be with him!

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Use a condom or birth control & as for the pain ... everyone is different it might not hurt for you like it does for someone else

Re

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well it depends on the guys size. my first time didn't hurt at all. and he is of decent size (married to him now). but it depends on you. I would recommend your own hands first. if you want to be sure it won't hurt as bad at least, your fingers are a great tool. start with one and go up to three when you're ready or if you can. just becareful with this guy and use a condom and preferably get on the pill.