How do you keep trying?

Question

I am in the process of going through either a 4th miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy. The doc needs to take more bloods and do a scan on Monday. I just don’t think I can keep putting myself through this. I’ve had all the testing- they said I had a clotting issue and put me on a double dose of aspirin but that hasn’t worked!! Don’t know what else to do.

Answer

First off I am so sorry you are going through this 💓 I had 3 miscarriages (1st at 6 weeks, 2nd missed MC at 12 weeks - baby 8+4, and my 3rd was between 5-6 weeks) before having my most beautiful perfect baby girl who is now 14 months. My previous losses were with an ex partner so I thought there was an issue there as I had no issues with my daughter with my husband. However we had a MC earlier this year, heard the most perfect heartbeat at 7 weeks only to be told at our 12 week scan the baby measured 9+1 and no heartbeat. We had the baby tested, found out it was a boy 💙 and has trisomy 22. My husband and I will have tests done to see if either of us carry this gene, it would explain a lot for me if I do. Have you been offered any testing? It is so draining and so hard to keep going but just remember the end result. I am luckier than a lot of ppl as I have my daughter and I hope if nothing else, this post can give you a little bit of hope x

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It is incredibly hard to keep going. I remind myself that the only way to have a baby is to keep trying, and as long as I keep hope that I will have that one day, it makes the pain more bearable.
I don’t know how many more losses I can take- 3 has been really hard- but I’m willing to risk another for my shot at making it work.
Day to day I keep going by focusing on one  thing that makes me happy each day. It helps the world seem less dark and gives me something to look forward to tomorrow.

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