would this be your deal breaker?

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I am 29, have been married for 8 years and have one 2 year old daughter who was a micro preemie. As with most 2 year olds my daughter is a lot to handle and my husband works 15 hr days 6 days a week. the fact that my 2 year old drives me crazy has my husband telling me that another kid is out of the question. We owned a business throughout my pregnancy and until my baby was 1. I feel like it's unfair for my husband to deny me another child! I didn't really get to experience pregnancy and the newborn stage, breastfeeding, etc. I don't want my daughter to grow up in 2 households but I am really not seeing how I can stay with him if he wont agree to at least one more kid.
ETA: I really feel like my child would only benefit from a sibling, I am the oldest of 6, and I feel like she would be so lonely without ever having a sibling.

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It sounds like the effect ON YOU is the only reason he's saying that. Maybe you need to find a way to show him you can be calm & collected about your kid.

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Get things under better control with your 2 year old and maybe he’ll feel differently

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You’re a little late for deal breakers at this point. The marriage hit a snag, sure, but it’s much harder to finance a divorce, coparent peacefully, and start over than it would be to convince your husband to give your child a sibling.

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No, but you should talk to him. divorce is not the answer make him work through this with you l. You are a team.

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I’m an only child and honestly, I’m not missing out on anything. In fact, I enjoy it as much as possible. There is that side of being “lonely”, but I got used to it. Of course it is entirely depends on nature vs. nurture. My mother came from a huge family with lots of siblings just like you. She’s the youngest of 8 children, so she have that wistfulness and guilt that perhaps she should of have more children. Of course there is that stereotypical stigma that come with being an only child. People always make proclamation that she and my dad must of spoiled me rotten...... well, duh! When there’s only one child in the family, that child gets the primary care from the parents. If you have multiple children then those children will have to share the attention of the parents, but not just the love, the finance of the parents as well. There are things that the parents can financially afford to offer to each children. Plus, one or several children will most likely feel the need to compete against the sibling(s) for attention and favoritism. There are pros. and cons. regardless whether your child is an only child or end up having sibling(s). 
I think that your husband take a look at the current situations - you have a business (stress #1 - that is a whole bubble of stress all on its own) AND the fact that like you said your 2yr old is driving you crazy (stress #2) - and decided that it would not be a good idea to try for another baby. No one in this forum knows how things are going with your business and how it affects your family. What your husband’s actually meant - the whole reasoning - when he doesn’t want you to have another child. It wouldn’t be a very good decision to call it quit just because you want another baby to make up for: 1. A lost experience with your first child. 2. Giving your child a sibling so she wouldn’t be lonely.
Having another child means you have to sacrifice your attention and energy to focus on what is currently most important, but that shouldn’t mean you have to sacrifice your marriage. What will be your gain if you call it quit because your husband is unwilling to have another child, especially when you can’t handle what you currently have?

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No. If we didn't agree on the subject we would talk. But it spines like it's more you thing, child driving you crazy and he's looking out for you and what you can handle. I would talk more and not make snap judgements. Also your kid is only 2. Wait a little while.

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preemies are hard. I babysat my cousin who was a preemie. I love that boy to death. he is brilliant. you have to be stricker with them and you will have to tell them no more than once. I think he should explain why he doesn't want another one.

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Ask him why he doesn’t want to try for another child? The reasons might be pretty valid. Is the whole “not experiencing pregnancy” the entire reason why you want another child? If so, you might need your husband’s logic. Talk to eachother, you both need to be on the same page for anything to happen.

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