So a little back story before I get into this: I am currently 21. I lost my virginity when I was 14, unfortunately. I regret it and wish I would have waited but I thought i was ready at the time. I've only had 3 sexual partners since then. I've just recently decided that I want to practice abstinence. Not because of religion but because I've always had a problem with thinking that my partner is just with me for sex. I'm not sure why, but it is what it is. And I think that abstinence will be a good idea for me. I've come across a few problems when I tell a guy that I start talking to that I'm abstinent. He will either think that I was a major slut because I lost my virginity at 14 and just now chosing abstinence OR he will tell me that he wouldn't be able to handle that and he never talks to me again. It's just so frustrating and disgusting that someone could be that low.