Boyfriends who just don’t understand how to clean...

Okay, I sort of just need to rant, here. Not necessarily looking for advice or anything. My boyfriend and I have been living together for just over a year and I swear, he doesn’t understand the meaning of the word “clean”. I get that a lot of guys are messy or gross, I do, but it gets on my nerves!

I’ve tried telling him what I expect to be done (not just from himself but from the both of us) and it never really gets done. Yesterday was his day off. He cleaned out the fish tank (which has no fish in it, but the fish died and I’d been waiting to see how long it would take him to clean it out since he took the fish responsibility upon himself... took a couple of weeks..) and he did dishes (there weren’t many to be done, but at least he did something lol) and he threw a ton of garbage in a bag and left it in the middle of the kitchen! Never took it out, I ended up taking it out. He walked past dog shit this morning on the stairs (every now and again our old dog goes potty inside) and left it, even though there was literally a plastic bag within arms length of it. It’s those little things that just piss me off! Or how the hookah he smokes leaves ash ALL OVER the counter/table he uses it at but he never wipes it down.

On my days off I do dishes, laundry, vacuum, pick up stuff on the floor, organize, wash the sheets (which btw he said he’d do yesterday and he didn’t lol).

I love him, but the fact he did almost nothing yesterday but invited someone over without telling me and played video games for 5 hours straight (his words not mine!) just baffles me! We are grown ass adults! We have responsibilities that need to be prioritized before we have fun. He could’ve taken out the trash and done a load of laundry or folded the laundry that I did before work, and still had plenty of game time!

I dunno, am I wrong? 😂 🤣