I have this friend that we’ll call Anna. I’ve been friends with Anna for five years now. We know each other very well, and she’s one of my only friends. But she’s the type of person to only come to you when she needs something. She calls me at least twice a week crying over the least important things ever. She’s not happy with her boyfriend. He totally disrespects her and doesn’t make her a priority. She wants to break up with him, or so she’s told me. Every other day she’s texting me to rant about something ELSE her shitty boyfriend did, and at first, I tried to be there for her. I would offer her advice, comfort her, whatever she needed.

Then one day, she gave her boyfriend my number because she wanted me to talk to him about why she was upset. She never asked me if she could give him my number, she just did it. So then her boyfriend started blowing my phone up, calling me names, telling me to stay out of their relationship. I sent screenshots of these messages to Anna, and she called me crying asking how to deal with him.

This has been going on since January, and I still try to help her. But when I need advice about something, she’ll ignore me and won’t help me. She always lies and tries to one-up me. I told her my boyfriend and I got engaged, and not even a week later she told me that she was eloping with her boyfriend the next month. They haven’t even been together for a year.

If I’m in the middle of doing something and she wants to complain to me, she’ll call me over and over until I answer, and send me texts saying to call her because ‘it’s an emergency’. Her version of an emergency is that her boyfriend blew her off to hang out with friends for the third time in a row.

I feel for her, i really do. I’m just so tired of our one-sided friendship, especially since she acts like our lives are full of competition. I’ve tried to help her and give her advice, but she never takes it. Does it make me a bad person for wanting to end my friendship with her?