How do you stay positive?

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I just can't stay positive anymore about TTC. It has been so difficult getting a negative test every month. I've been doing everything I'm supposed to do, I've researched everything I possibly could and tried every crazy thing out there from eating certain foods to standing basically on my head! People say, "just stop trying and it will happen". How do you "just stop trying"? To me that's like telling a fish to walk. How am I supposed to stay positive and keep up hope when it's been over a year and nothing is happening??? I'm going crazy here!

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I am right there with you!  I'm taking clomid too and am horribly hormonal. It's soo hard to still hope and I'm really impatient   I have found some blogs and stuff on the internet that help a little.   I will pray for you.  Baby dust to you!

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Mine was praying all the time for a baby. I came out and asked my church to pray for the baby. I pray for peace now. Oh! And to calm my hormones I use clary sage oil on the bottoms of my feet and on the front of my neck every night.

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If it makes you feel any better I know how you feel. I've tried on and off for the last 6 years. 2 miscarriages at around 10 weeks.

I have a daughter who's asked for a sister for her birthday and Christmas every year since she was 2. Everyone hears that i have 1 and immediately "oh you should have another...." or "Don't worry you have plenty of time" even got told to stop being selfish and have another kid.

Best advice I can give is stop counting, charting and obsessing. Relax and get back to the point where sex is fun and not a chore. It'll happen when its meant to happen...

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Relax and stop putting so much focus on not conceiving. You are stressing too much which could be one reason it is not happening. Similar to losing something and looking for it like crazy. As soon as you forget about it it appears.

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Have you read The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant? It helped me stay sane!

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It's so tough to stay positive and I don't know what to say that will help you besides you are not alone and I will pray for you. And that you get covered in baby dust this month.