So denial is defined by wikipedia as : Exotic orgasm denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice or sex play in which a person is kept in a heightened state of sexual arousal for an extended length of time without orgasm. For my SO and I we do it for a week straight at a time. For us it makes sex alot more arousing. For me it makes me alot more needy. For him alot more controlling in bed. We switch alot,I'll be dominant than he will. It's fun and brings us closer together.