Is it my fault?

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My friend and I decided to chill with this couple , kick back loosen up and have a couple of drinks . Things went left when the dude pulled out coke . Me being me I got up and went outside on the balcony trynna get service to get a Uber for me and my friend . The Uber was 8 mins away . 8 mins never felt so long . My friend is drunk snorting lines & shit she comes out side with the dude dick in her hand jacking him off telling me stop being a party pooper so I told him can he excuse us real quick I told her to snap out of it the Uber is on it’s way she’s like Ight girl ima put my shoes on . I walk inside my friend is naked kissing the girl & jacking him off at the same time I’m like GIRL LETS GO THE UBER IS OUTSIDE he grabs her and say babe doesn’t wanna go any where . I’m like please let’s go she’s like Ight ima go with you . She puts her clothes on the dude whispers in her ear . AND SHE WENT OFF ON ME . Saying I wasn’t her mom she don’t have to listen to me.  I’m like come on I’m not gonna leave you here like this your drunk and high off drugs please let’s go . She didn’t budge she started saying how jealous I was of her how I want her life . And I’m like please let’s go so I grabbed her tried to take her outside I DIDNT CARE IF SHE HAD NO CLOTHES ON we needed to go . THIS BITCH STARTED TO SWING ON ME screaming . So I let her go . And I got in the Uber. And went home .. didn’t hear from her for a week then she calls me & say I let her get RAPED IT WAS MY FAULT I blamed myself and I still do .. but is it really my fault ? Did I not try hard enough ? Lmk . Cuss I don’t know . The girl hates my guts now and it’s been bothering me

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Girl no. it was NOT your fault. Drugs make people do the craziest things. she was in the moment and wasnt in "reality". You tried your best. Hell, you did more than most would...you even tried grabbing her to force her to leave. You couldnt do anything else since she was trying to throw punches to get you to leave her alone. 
You are a good friend. People have a way to twist things around and make it all your fault -- but you know deep down you did your best. 
I'd think twice about going out with her from now on tho 👀🤷‍♀️

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nope its not your fault, you tried and just like she said, you're not her mother. dont make her make you feel as if its your fault. yes that sucks whatever happened to her but you tried to get her out of that situation and it was her choice to stay.

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It's not your fault, girl. Your friend is misplacing the blame. She's just angry, most likely at herself for not listening.

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its not your fault, you didn't make her drink and you didn't make her do lines of coke. you tried to do the right thing and even when things were going south you still tried, keyword you tried. she needs to take responsibility for her own actions. you had the brains to sense danger and find a way out she unfortunately did not or chose not to. you are a good friend, sadly sometimes we have friends that just want to destroy themselves and nothing you can do will help them, they can only help themselves.

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Oh my god u really shouldn’t of left her that’s where u were wrong you never leave a bitch behind regardless if y’all got into a fist fight BUT THAT DON’T MEAN ITS YOUR FAULT

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I feel like the only thing else you could have done was stay there and possibly be at risk of the same fate or possibly violence if you kept opposing what the guy and girl were expecting from your friend and yourself. I dont think she deserved to be taken advantage of because she was messed up but I dont think the blame is on you. that couple clearly had plans.

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It is not your fault, you did your best to get yourself and her out of the situation. If she got violent when trying to get her to leave what were you supposed to do? Knock her out and drag her into the car? Nah. She made her choices and you cannot save everyone, especially from themselves sometimes.

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i was in a similar situation with a friend. luckily i was able to get her out and go home however she kept trying to uber back to the guys house. my husband woke up and heard the commotion and saw she was trying to leave. he held her down and a physical altercation insued. obviously my hubby never hit her back but he did try to hold her from hitting him. she then attacked me and at that point we knew it was more dangerous to keep her in the house than to let her go. we gave her her phone purse ect and let her leave. she ubered back to the guys house... she is mad at me and hasnt spoken to me since.
 your damned if you do and your damned if you dont. all i was trying to do was protect her from doing something dumb and my hubby was just trying to make sure she didnt continue to hurt me. and we are seen as terrible people for doing that. there goes 12yrs of friendships smh. i wouldnt worry about it girl. i feel terrible everything that happened but i have peace knowing that it was all in good intention. if she doesnt see that then thats her problem. ive tried to reach out several times and she just blocks me out. hopefully in the future we can talk about it and clear the air but until then i am at peace because i know i did it out of love. you did it out of love too girl. dont worry about it and hopefully she comes around.

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DONT GET UPSET!!  IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!  you tried numerous times to get her to go with you,  and yet she decided to stay.  no one told her to snort drugs,  no one was holding her hand and making her do those things.  
if you want to still be her friend and help her through this then fine but if she keeps blaming you for shit you didn't do,  then find another friend.

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Well what’s done is done, you tried to do the right thing and sensed the danger but your friend was not in her right mind. This situation was not your fault. I would have just called the cops to try get extra help involved. That being said no one forced her to drink, and do drugs. The only thing you can do is pray, step away from the situation. Your friend has to realize the consequences of her actions. And realize that you where trying to save her. I hope that one day she finds the solace and peace to forgive you. But for now I would just let her go. Right now she is directing her hatred towards you because she felt that you did not save her. Or what ever is going on in her mind who knows. She will need time to process everything. But just remember that you stepped up when she was intoxicated.

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