Hey ladies, I'm struggling with something and could use some advice. So the story is, I'm 27 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, living together almost 2. My boyfriend is absolutely amazing. He is smart and caring and funny and we have an awesome life together. The problem I'm having is my best friend (We'll call him A). A and I met as freshman in highschool and we have been extremely close ever since. I know, completely cliche, but I started to have feelings for him not long after we met, and they only grew from there. Unfortunately there has always been one reason or another that I couldn't tell him how I really felt. At one point I had my entire "feelings confessing" speech ready and waiting for the right moment, but something always got in the way. It seemed like he might return those feelings, our relationship has always been teasing and flirty, but we never actually talked about it so I never knew for sure. Eventually (after years of trying) I decided that if he hadn't brought it up or made a move in all that time (at certain points I was pretty obvious about it in case he was just shy) that I had probably misread things and it would just be best to let it go and move on. We stayed very close, but I stopped trying romantically, and eventually i met my now bf. My feelings for A have always been there in the back of my mind, but they faded a lot with time and as me and my bf grew closer. So, fast forward to now, my bf and I live together and we are very happy, and A still comes to visit all the time. His most recent visit was only a few days ago, but when he got here, I have no idea what happened, it's like all my feelings from years ago hit me in the head like a sledgehammer. Its never happened any other time he's been here, but suddenly my heart was pounding whenever we got close and I had butterflies in my stomach and the sexual tension was unreal! I feel so guilty for feeling this way because I really love my boyfriend and I would never want to jeopardize our life together, but now I am so confused about everything and can't get it out of my head. It seems like no matter what I do, it's a lose. To tell A how I feel after so many years and now that I'm in a LTR just wouldn't be fair. But to keep hiding these feelings when they are coming back so strong doesn't feel right either.. Has anyone else ever been in anything similar? Old feelings hit you again durring a new relationship.. Just need some advice..