I must start with giving a quick background: I am from Michigan (huge family) and my boyfriend is from Germany. We are both military and live in California, thousands of miles away from our families.... Us having a baby was already going to be a lone event for us as no one will be coming to visit... All my girlfriends are giving me wonderful pregnancy advice and talk all about baby registries and showers. I feel VERY uncomfortable to ask for things especially since our families are so far away and we have never needed to ask for help. I am told that the baby shower is so important for the baby and now I've been starting to think about it and gather little ideas.... I've made silly registries for the free baby boxes.... Fast forward to today: I brought up the idea of a Halloween baby shower to my boyfriend and he got upset and said no, it is not necessary nor going to happen. I got a bit upset and frustrated because any time I talk about things we will need to get or do for the baby's room, he doesn't really respond or give any input... I kind of snapped back at him with how much money goes into the start of the baby and he responded with something really childish that pissed me off.... I decided to instead of getting mad and letting this brew (it is so easy now that I am pregnant to do that) I decided to look up German traditions with baby showers and registries.... Come to find out, it is generally believed to be bad luck to give a gift or have a party before the baby is here and that it would cause something bad to happen.... The party happens after the baby is born. I dug into more things and everything is reading the same. Basically, I don't want to disrespect him, his family or traditions over something that makes me feel uncomfortable in the first place... But now, I'm freaking out a bit feeling like I will be footing all the bills because he isn't too interested or doesn't realize what goes into having a baby..... 😟😰🙈