I'm sorry I really have no idea which category I'm supposed to put this in so I'm sorry if it annoys anyone being here but I really need to get this out and get some advice.

My partner and I have been together for 7-8 years, but through a lot of that we was off and on and still young and childish, now we have a child together who is 3 weeks old.

My partner and I have always seemed to go through different periods in the relationship, some where we don't really seem all that into the relationship and then mainly when we do, though my partners has always said this isn't true in his case but its how it feel.

Now our baby is here and I could not feel further away from him, I honestly don't even feel like I want to be with him, but then I think about not being with him and it breaks my heart, not to mention it's only early in our daughters life and maybe things will change? We don't live together at the moment, so I am constantly raising our daughter alone, he stays every few days and almost always comes up if a day but when he does he may as well not be here, he sits there on his phone the whole time, I have to ask him to have our daughter otherwise he won't and when he does its never long before I either have to take her off him or he hands her over because she doesn't seem to settle for him but that's because he makes it like he doesn't care, he barely talks to her or touches her and you can just generally tell he doesn't want her and I'm sure she can sense that.

I'm struggling so much doing it on my own and it's making me so angry and breaking my heart that it seems like he doesn't care for me or my daughter.

I honestly have no idea what to do, when he's here he's really not, he barely communicates with me anymore, we don't even feel like friends, he doesn't care for our daughter in either meanings of the word and he's not trying. I could not feel more alone, and before anyone says it yes we've talked about this and he always says he'll try better but if anything it gets worse.

Will this get better? What do I do? Because honestly I feel like a single mother so I feel as if I may as well make myself one but I don't want to walk away from my daughters father or give up if it's to get better.

Sorry it's so long, but I desperately need help and really struggled with how to word this and skipped a fair bit of what I wanted to say.