bad mom

my daughter will be 2 in December and my sister (who's never been around kids except for my daughter) told me I was a bad mother because I put my daughter to bed at 8:30-9:30 every night and make her take a nap between 2-3 unless we're out and about then she takes a nap later in the day. My child is now at the stage where she's fighting her sleep and I know if she doesn't take a nap throughout the day she's gonna be so grumpy but my sister thinks because I'm laying her down for a nap even when she doesn't want it that I'm being a bad mom and making her nap just so I don't have to deal with her all day. I'm A SAHM and 20 weeks pregnant so maybe it's hormones but she had me in tears over this.