Who else gets worried a little?

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I read every day tons of posts here about girls who trust their guys completely and sometimes not, but yeah seems like most girls here have snooped through their partners phone and found one or several unpleasant surprises! 🙈
I trust my boyfriend because he doesn’t have social media except WhatsApp but he only talks to a buddy there and me and some family members. 
I have never gone through my boyfriends phone and he have never snooped in mine either... but now from reading all these heartbreaking posts I’m actually starting to wonder... maybe he is hiding something without me knowing! 
Girls saying “our relationship have been perfect lately” and then they find out something really bad....  and now I’m here thinking “oh maybe I’m a fool... maybe our relationship is so good because he secretly have some other girls on the side or something”.
So yeah, who else gets worried when they read all these posts why didn’t worry before?
I mean I read like 10 of those everyday, and it’s making my imagination run wild haha. 
I don’t think I will snoop but who knows now🤷🏼‍♀️

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Dont feel bad. That happens to me sometimes. I think “she saw no red flags, and neither do I, but it still ended because he was a scum bag”
And it scares me. But I just have to remember who I married and why I married him. I feel better after that:)
I get it, dont worry. Just dont let the fear control decisions you make.

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I see these a lot too. I don’t get worried about them though because they have nothing to do with my marriage. I don’t snoop and never have because I believe the saying what’s done in the dark will always come to the light so if my husband ever was doing anything he wouldn’t be able to hide it for too long. He hasn’t ever given me a reason not to trust him so I trust him.

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I understand you. I have friends who have completely and 100% trusted their SOs, he was the perfect husband or father, and afterward found out he was dishonest. It really does and can happen. But you have to have faith in your relationship and know that you’ve given it your all. Whatever happens (good or bad), you can learn from!

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Me and my husband dont necessarily snoop but I have all access to his phone.
if his phone is by me and I want to look something up, then i do.
if he has a text and asks me to read it I do and respond ( its usually my aunt 😂 )
I look through his pictures because he will take pictures of our daughter and never send them 😑 so I will. 
his bank account is on my phone I check it.
I means we are married, his is mine mine is his.
I dont say omg let me see what hes doing or etc.

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if you go looking for trouble youll find it 🤷
1. if you dont trust your man you might want to reconsider your relationship
2. dont start casting insecurities on your relationship because of what happened in someone elses relationship.  trust until you have a reason not to. 
3. you will never ever know when someone is truly telling the truth or lying.  you can only know if you are telling the truth or lying. so stop stressing about it.

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My fears and insecurities get the best of me sometimes but I remind myself that:
- the truth will always come out
- confidence is attractive
- what you focus on grows (your fear will support behaviors in your relationship that could lead him to seek his emotional needs elsewhere)
- suffering over worry about something that may or may not happen is more painful for the amount of time that you’re experiencing the pain (simply by imagining it) than living in full trust for the duration of the relationship and dealing with the betrayal only when it actually happens 
- also, snooping accomplishes nothing. If someone wants to hide something, with the available technology, they’ll be able to hide it easily. And usually, you’ll find something that is actually innocent and overthink it and start to assume the worst. 
Trust your own judgment for picking a good and decent partner, assume the best of them and their behaviors (even when they hurt you, they’re likely feeling hurt themselves or scared and not sure how to properly communicate), and if you later learn that they’ve disrespected you or the relationship, you deal with it then, knowing you gave the relationship the best chance to thrive.

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In the 5 1/2 years I have been with my fiancé I have never once snooped through his phone or any personal information. I have never once felt like I needed to either. He’s always been open and honest with me. He’s friends with other women (even a couple exes) and he’s always put me first and kept firm boundaries with them. He’s a great guy and I love him so much. We did long distance for 5 years and are now finally getting married. We’re so happy and have such an incredible relationship. 
The thing is, I don’t post about our incredible relationship. I have no reason too. I’ll comment on people’s posts and give advice, but why ask for advice about a relationship that’s healthy, happy and strong? That’s the issue- the happy women on here aren’t posting as much. You see so many more bad relationships because those women are the ones who post asking for advice.

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I’d honestly bring it up with him. Just explain to him what’s making you second guess and overthink. Reading all of those made me feel the same way. I explained it to my husband and he reassured me. He offered to let me go through his phone and gave me the password but I haven’t. Talking about it was enough. He was understandingly frustrated but I made it clear it was nothing he was doing. His biggest issue was he now doesn’t like that I use this app.

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I don’t. People who are always in bad situations will post about their bad situation. People here post about their good relationships too.

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I do get worried occasionally. I can almost always identify it as my anxiety being out of control, though.
I have access to my boyfriend's phone and accounts. He doesn't hide anything from me. So I don't feel the need to actually look at any of it. If I do look, it's always because my curiosity gets the better of me, and I typically tell him I'm gonna do it just because I'm bored 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

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