How to Lose weight

I’ve always been body happy. I’ve never made my weight a big deal but I’m what you consider “thick” so that’s what the guys say. I have a fat pooch and that’s my biggest insecurity. I see all you beautiful females losing weight or getting tone and I’m just like HOWWW? I try and never get anywhere. Where do y’all get the motivation? Where do y’all start? I need some tips. I just went through a bad breakup and I think I’m ready but idk where to begin... any tips?