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So me and my in laws don’t have the best relationship. They are traditional older Mexicans (born in Mexico), they don’t really speak any English. I’m half Mexican and black. Both my parents were born here so I can’t really relate to typical mexican things. I would say my Spanish is average...enough to get me past basic questions but not enough to have a full on conversation. Not only is there a language barrier, but we don’t have much in common because I was brought up in an “American” household. It’s kind of frustrating cause sometimes I want to jump in their conversations but idk how to word certain things in Spanish. And I find it talking to them in English is kind of rude. I’m jealous of my bf’s sister in law because her parents are old fashion Mexicans born in Mexico so she can relate to them a lot more and have actual long conversations. I’m a very outgoing talkative funny person but I feel like they haven’t seen that side of me. Anyone have a problem similar? I really want a good relationship with them considered my bf and I plan on getting married next year so they will be my family.

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ci

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My husband is Persian I’m Mexican and I was also brought up American and my husband Persian his mom speaks broken English but we still talk .. I still have full conversations with her even if she doesn’t understand everything my sister in law or my husband would translate.. I think your mother in law would love for you to speak your broken Spanish.. my mom doesn’t speak English broken as well but my husband knows Spanish(learn working construction) and he uses broken Spanish with my mom and my mom uses broken English and my mom loves it..

ci

cindi • Jul 25, 2018
Aww thank you.. Lol and I met him Thru a friend and her bday celebration they are coworkers lol

Ld

Ld • Jul 24, 2018
I like that combination Mexican/Persian, where did you meet your partner? your kids are going to be really cute

ch

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They know you so I’m sure they don’t expect you to speak perfectly!

ch

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I am half Mexican and half native Americans but grew up American with native traditions. I sound like I’m stupid when I talk in Spanish because I don’t know a lot but enough to get by somewhat. I still try to talk to them and it’s been good for our relationship.

Ld

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start tidying up your Spanish, learn it more so you can talk to them they will appreciate the effort rather than no effort at all. I speak perfect Spanish, was born and raised on this side, but still keep the Mexican culture I love it, American stuff here and there. if there's something I always say in English as well as in Spanish like "party" I translate it for my mil telling her it's fiesta, sorry the habit. she accepts it and also helps her to learn a bit on English though it's not necessary for her. they may be old fashioned but there's always something to talk about parties, food, the latest gossip ect. find out what they like, like a hobby or favorite sports so you can find topics of conversation. you can try duolingo, work your way up in Spanish and you'll have no regrets. when I was in college I met this girl she said she regretted it not learning and knowing any conversational Spanish cause of her own gma would talk to her in Spanish she could understand sometimes what she would say but she could never find a way to reply to her, it was a really sad thing for her she loved her gma very much but couldn't bond with her as she wished.On sidenote, I do plan to teach my kids Spanish first, then English it's a must to communicate and preserve the language. very important to me to have my own kids speak my first language to my parents and to the mil. I'm trying with my niece she spoke Spanish though English is sticking more to her now. I'll make sure she doesn't forget her Spanish

Ld

Ld • Jul 24, 2018
you can do it it's possible they will be multilingual also will serve them well in job prospects

ci

cindi • Jul 24, 2018
I agree with teaching your kids both languages teaching our kids Spanish, English and Farsi and I want to teach them sign Language as well

De

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You should try to speak to them anyway. In my bilingual family- we now have our OWN language lol. It’s 50/50. Some words we combined or made up, but have been using them for 15 years now. 🌼

Ja

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I think you should just try to talk to them, your Spanish will get better and they might start to understand English. my husband didnt know any Spanish when we started dating (he's Mexican) but my family and I taught him and now we can't get him to shut up!😂 he has full conversations with my grandma who doesn't know any English at all. I think your in laws will like and appreciate the effort.