First of all: If you are NOT against porn, you're totally fine with your SO using it or perhaps you even watch it yourself, this isn't the post for you. Everyone has the right to feel as they wish, but I am not posting this in order to start a porn-is-okay VS porn-is-not-okay debate.

How does your husband/SO viewing porn affect you? Personally... I have always struggled with self confidence. I had thought I had built a lot of confidence up and was doing really well, then I discovered my husband's porn addiction. Shattered every bit of confidence I'd gained. I married him of course because he IS a good guy. But he is the type that puts a lot of importance on looks, which is really intimidating to me and creates a lot of pressure. Knowing that he is addicted to getting off by looking at women that I could never even begin to compare to makes me feel miserable and like I'll never be good enough. And knowing how important looks are to him (as is the case with a lot of men, I know) makes it feel like I'm being compared to something that I could never even compete with.

I think back to the few times I was actually bold enough to try and take sexy pictures to send to him, and I feel so stupid.

How do you ladies feel about it? How have you expressed it to your SO?