to give up or not?

so its been 12-13months TTC and its to the point that its ALL i think about, even have the babies room set up and ready already, about 9.5 out of 10 things i talk about a day is something to do with baby, me and my partner are getting to the point of actually arguing over it and im not even sure if should continue with it or not, its 150% what i want i have wanted it for ages now but im giving up hope so much and its getting to the point its running my life what am i to do =( i dont want it to ruin my relationship =/ anyone else having or had this problem??