So here's the short version:

My husband told me recently that an old friend of mine who I was planning to reconnect with had messaged him about a hook up she had with a guy and was still horny and needed someone to finish her off.

This happened when in our early years of being bf and gf, now it pissed me off that he did not tell me because that was extremely inappropriate of her and he thought it was not important to mention this to me.

So years later in the now I asked her what has happened and why she texted him, she got defensive and I told her I simply wanted to know what happened and she asked me why I was bringing up something from the past (I wanted to know the truth and if she was past being that person) but she just remained defensive, so later on I made the choice to drop her as a friend and was upfront with her about it. It was because I am not really comfortable with her attitude towards it and lack of regret so I thought it best we went our seperate ways but wished her the best.

She got defensive again called me dramtic, insecure, and jealous and said I needed help.

(I am not any of those things I just did not want to be friends with someone who backstabbed me and can not own up to it. or at least say sorry.)

Overall I am upset because she messaged my husband and he took her side but says he didnt but yet he said I was insecure and jealous which pissed me off because we have a past and im healing from it but I am a very confident person overall he has just emotionally hurt me in the past. He rather try and understand her and her reaction to my message to her then to defend me or have my back, it really hurt me.

Am I being unreasonable?

I know its not a lot of info but its the shortest I could make it.

UPDATE:

Thank you ladies, I just wanted to feel like my hormones were not getting the best of me and how I felt and my husband has come to his senses and apologized I feel like this has made our relationship so much stronger and I feel like she thought she could get under my skin but never did, idk what she was expecting to achieve with messaging my husband trying to make me sound crazy but all she did was make us realise how much more we are bonded and in love with eachother. ❤