Hi everyone

So here is the story.

My boyfriend and I have been in a loving relationship for a while but he has trouble reaching orgasm. He has always said that he has never been able to orgasm or ejaculate during sex. So we always do me until I finish (roughly 25+mins) then we together, do him. But this always takes a long time, at least 30+ mins. We went to the doctors and thought it was medication he was on. But the doctor said it must of been because he is so used to doing himself. So we had a month and a half of absolutely nothing to try and reset himself. Unfortunately that didn’t work. I was starting to get disheartened because I thought it must be me, maybe I’m not doing it right or maybe I wasn’t sexy enough but he never has any trouble getting hard. He has assured me that it’s definitely him and showed me that I’m loved and that I’m definitely “doing it for him”. We have only ever used condoms and have never done anything without them. So I went out and found some thinner ones. He said that it helped and he felt like it got a lot better and I feel the difference too. But still he never reached orgasm or ejaculated. We decided to try it one time without a condom. We were super safe (e.g. we both went out and got STD tested. All clear. And we did it when I wasn’t in my fertile window and with the withdrawal method.) so we still had the usual foreplay and build up just no condom. Less then 3mims of actually doing it he ejaculated. It felt amazing for both of us. We both were so relieved. So it’s definitely not me and he can actually do it. But we can’t have unprotected sex forever and We would prefer if we could use condoms. Or any other type of protection. So has anyone else experienced this? What did you guys do? Any suggestions?

Thank you. 😁