My husband and I have been married for 3 years and have started trying for a baby for a few months now. I just admitted to him yesterday that I never actually “feel” it when he ejaculates. I can tell when he is finishing by the way his body tenses up and the face he makes. Is this normal?

We just had the one of the most intense sex romps I’ve ever experienced this morning. It was lovely, I think. He immensely enjoyed it and I enjoyed that he was so into it. I struggled to get into it because I couldn’t feel him build or finish. I do have vaginismus, which makes sex difficult to begin with, but does anyone ever actually “feel” the penis finish, or do you just understand that it happens?

I feel like a broken woman. This is taking a far greater toll than I ever could have imagined and I am so defeated. Just looking for some advice. Thank you.