Am I overreacting?

His family is throwing me a bridal shower and they said I could invite whoever I want. I am 10+2 weeks pregnant and only my side of the family knows, no one on his side knows yet and he doesn’t plan on telling his for another few weeks for some reason. My family thinks it’s absolutely ridiculous that he’s not telling them (and so do I). Anyways this is what he said to me.

He talks so much shit about my family. Saying my grandmother is a “witch” (because she has long hair. Wtf?) says my mom is a “fat bitch” (literally said we shouldnt order our food to her house before we get there because she’ll eat it all). Says my stepdad (who is from Honduras) is a “spick”. Says my youngest sister who is 6 years old and may have autism is “fucking weird”. But the SECOND I say his family is too clingy and overpowering, he flips the fuck out and tells me to shut the fuck up and I shouldn’t be talking considering the way my family is.

He says he doesn’t want them coming because they’ll say something about the baby which they 100% will not. And idk it’s just really pissing me off the way he’s been talking to me lately. Am i just being sensitive and pregnant? Or is he really a dick because at this point I don’t know.

Edit: I’ll add we are already married... 😞

And now he has been ignoring me for 30 minutes. I give up 😭😭😭😭

And I will also add that the baby was a surprise, and we used protection but it still found a way