Shes nice, she's an older lady and can't move around the best. Yet insists on changing my little one's diaper.. which took so long she peed again during the ordeal, and failed to notice that since she peed on her onesie she obviously peed on the changing pad as well... I'd rather just change her quickly and easily but I'm trying to be nice and involve her. What worries me is later on when my SO is home she wants to try carrying her while he walks with her.. if she tries to go outside I'm not letting that happen because our air quality is hazardous outside with all the wildfires going on. I'm also just nervous about how he's going to help if shes walking with my baby and she slips out?? or decides to do it alone after he assists this time since she is close to 20lbs right now. I don't know if I'm just being over concerned or rude in not wanting to her do certain things? I don't want to say no to a lot of things since she flew a long way to come meet my little one, but she is my baby and even my grandma who is in better condition physically doesn't want to try to do a lot of the things this lady is doing. Just needed to vent a little since as a ftm it is hard sometimes sharing the baby especially when you aren't 100% confident in the people wanting to do stuff with them.