Scared of sex?

Question

I want to have sex incredibly bad. I’m 22 years old and have never had actual sex but i am a very sexual person and enjoy fooling around with guys. I have a fear of intimacy and an unrealistic fear of pregnancy that gives me anxiety and makes me think I’m pregnant when There is no possible way i could be. Has anyone else experienced this?

Answer

It sounds like you have some guilt around the idea of having sex as well. My family was Pentecostal growing up and I had so many false ideas about sex and had such a difficulty with enjoying it even in my rebellious times. Even once I was married. 
Now I have worked through it and remarried an amazing man. And thank goodness I have worked through all that because it is wonderful to let go, be one with someone and have that deep connection and trust. 
I’ve always had self confidence issues as well and let me tell you it takes work and the right man to help through all that. 
I get wanting sex, I went through a very bad phase at that. If I would have known then that I could please myself and God wouldn’t strike me down that would have helped. 
The desire is nothing to be ashamed of, however having sex is special. take it from someone who has been with too many men. 
Please yourself, do other things, find that connection, use protection like birth control AND condoms and GO FOR IT ❤️

Answer

Not me personally, but my boyfriend has such bad anxiety about accidentally getting me pregnant that we've only had sex when we've spent a long time apart, but other than that we only ever do everything else.