How do you know if you are being emotionally abused?. My father was abusive to my brother and mother. He was also an angry drunk. He died when I was in fourth grade. Which still affects me today and I am now in 11th. Anyway there are a lot of mental illnesses that run in my family... From both sides. My mother now will sometimes take her anger out on me verbally. When anyone raises their voice just alittle I get very afraid. Just recently she told me that I don't get a choice because I'm a child. I feel like everything is somehow my fault. There will be times when I don't want to eat because she has made me feel fat. Some days she is nice and kind and others she is the opposite. She cried when I said I wanted to go to college out of state and acted like I was ungrateful and being mean to her. I feel like it would be in my best interest to distance myself from her physically and emotionally when I can but it's hard. Because I know that she would be angry with me. All my friends are telling me to hold out until I can move in with my so but I just feel so broken and empty because of both my mum and dad. What should I do? How can I move past this?