what is your take as a month about this topic ???

I know every parent has their own way to discipline and raise their kids. There is no right or wrong way because to each their own. so please we dont need rude comments or judgments. I just to see where most of the mom stand about this next question or situation I'm about to describe.

My husband and I have decided that when it comes to discipline our kids we ofcourse are the primary people to do it. meaning that if we are in a family reaunion or just hanging out only us will be discipline him if he does something wrong or isn't behaving. We wont allow other people to do it while we are present. But we have also agreed that when he is in the the care of his grandparents, uncles, friends or a babysitter they will have full permission to discipline him if he doesn't behave.

I say this because my mother has been fighting me about this. She doesn't live with us or in the same country, but we Skype her almost every day, but it's becoming a fight because I have told her at least 3 or 4 times now that when I'm right there she hasn't have the right to discipline the kids. I have told her to please stay quiet and let me or my husband do it. she keeps saying no I'll do it because I'm the grandma and I'm just going to keep doing it.... She will come to visit in the next few months and I will have a serious but respectful talk with her and my husband about this because it need to be addres for sure.

please let me know what is your personal take on this citation. thank you

*** edit to say this: Our kid does respect and listen to other adults. he isn't being raise to fail in this aspect of life. we stronglybeliev that he need to respect and listen to other adult, and we teach him this everday. he goes to the gym daycare for 2 to 3 hours almost everyday and he is in full responsibility of them. I never had them call me saying he isn't listening or saying he is most behaving.

he has also been babysat by other people and he has respect and listened to them as well. never gotten a bad word about him.

once again what we are saying is that if we are present we would like to handle his discipline because we are very strict and have different believes. it doesn't me we dont enforce respect about other adults.