Is it wrong for me to be annoyed when a woman whines about TTC for literally a few months and I’ve been waiting years??

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I know everyone is different but doesn’t it annoy you when someone thinks TTC for 8 months has been the longest process, but after 4 years your still trying with NOTHING and still being told not give up/have faith or even stop thinking about it soo much??!! 😡✋🏽
I personally know women who have been TTC for longer than 4 years and have had such a difficult time.
Congrats to all the women that get their BFP after a few months or weeks, but after the excitement maybe stop to think for a few minuets about the women who have been TTC for years with NO LUCK and are so desperately hoping for a miracle!!

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I mean looking at it that way it’d be like someone telling you that you can’t complain about trying for 4 years when say they’ve been trying for 10 years with no luck. TtC is so hard and emotional for everyone in its own way, I think what makes it harder is so many women don’t have a grasp of their basic fertility because for a lot of people that information just isn’t taught, I’ve seen so many women just think it’s simple as having sex at any time to fall pregnant. I know it’s easy to be stressed, hurt, and sometimes even bitter through this process but it wouldn’t be fair to silence someone because you have it worse, if that’s the case then there would be support for no one because someone will always have it worse than yourself.

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I agree, it’s annoying. I tried for over three years but you just have to remember even though it’s not a long time ttc and it’s totally within in the normal range it still seemed like a long time to them (even though it wasn’t really). Unless you’ve personally gone through infertility you don’t know what it’s like and can’t understand the struggle. But seeing posts about someone saying they “finally” conceived after four months definitely makes me roll my eyes.

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🙋🙋yes it does get to me when i see people complaining after 2 months ttc  🤦  i have been trying for 4 years it got hard once i hit the 2 years thats when it kicks in how difficult it actually is x

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Everyone experiences this journey differently. With health problems, a few months into TTC I was facing a hysterectomy. Kind of made me incredibly anxious for that BFP. Their journey isn’t yours and only if it was would you be able to understand it.

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I mean, I get annoyed when I see posts about someone trying for 2 weeks (yes, seriously) or 2 months. But 8 months is a pretty long time. I know that by 8 months of trying I was seriously depressed and had to end up going on anti depressants. It was a horrible time in my life. TTC for any (significant) amount of time is hard, whether it’s one year or 8 years, and I wouldn’t criticise someone for being upset about it.

Is it wrong for me to be annoyed when a woman whines about TTC for literally a few months and I’ve been waiting years??

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