Custody scares by son’s dad (cross posted)

So I’m 30+3 and the other day me and my now ex-boyfriend had a really heated argument. Basically..since I’ve been with him, his mom has been so disrespectful to me. From kicking me out when I had nowhere else to go, and from throwing subliminal shots about me losing my first son to stillbirth.

Literally a MONSTER-IN-LAW. Well, now I’m pregnant with our rainbow son, and I’m due this October. Basically..we were talking about the baby and his mom came up some how. I mentioned how I didn’t feel comfortable with our son around her alone, one because she hates me & because my ex boyfriend has a son from a past relationship that I love dearly but she is very cruel to him whenever he’s mad at me or my ex. From yelling at him to get out of her room, to cursing at him like he’s an adult.

He’s 4 & completely innocent to her abusive behavior. I fear for the life and sanity of my son being around her alone. That’s all I said. & after that..all hell broke loose. He started saying how he could care less about what I thought & how he will take me to court. I never mentioned ever taking him to court.

Again..our son isn’t even born yet..I am devastated and disgusted that this is the person I chose to have a child with. He definitely showed his true colors of not loving me at all. Everything that my son has, has been bought by either me or my mother. He hasn’t brought anything and he told me he won’t buy anything because he doesn’t make enough..

I didn’t bash him for it or anything but now that I feel like he’s out to get me, and trying to take my baby from me, I think I’m going to actually have to treat him like I don’t care about him when I genuinely do💔..he smokes marijuana around his 4 year old son, and we always argue over it and I end up leaving his house because he doesn’t care. I always tell him, “you cant do that around him or the baby!” And he doesn’t care about my opinion.

Also, he keeps illegal guns & bullets in his closet that I begged to get rid of. He refuses because he claims he knows what he’s doing. It’s just so much stuff that I want him to change but instead he doesn’t care. As far as myself, I live in a quiet suburban area with my mom & sisters. My whole entire house is literally baby proof. My room is full of stuff for baby already. Every necessity a baby needs, I have for my son already all bought by my mom & I. I’m 20 years old by the way. He is 23. He disrespects me on so many levels and it got like this the other day because I told him about how I didn’t feel comfortable with his mom. So..I just wanted some advice on what I could be looking forward to. I’m not really afraid of anything because I dont do drugs, drink, or anything.

My house is set for my baby. His is not. He has nothing for the baby. Not even a bed. When I ask him, “where will the baby sleep when he’s born and you want him”, and he says, “in the bed with me”. I’m just disgusted. I also plan to breast feed and he doesn’t care to know how store my milk or defrost it to feed our son when he has him. I’m just so upset that this is reality. He is not the person I fell in love with. When I found out I was pregnant is when he showed his true self. But I guess I should’ve known when he joked about us losing our son all because I didn’t want to be with him...I gave him a chance, by the grace of God got pregnant with our rainbow child.. & he acts this way. Please give me advice...

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