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If you have time to read this please help me. 
So I met my ex when I was 16 (26 now) we have been on and off all these years because him moving away so far and just got hard. Longest we didn't talk was 3 years and that was because I was in another relationship but as soon as I was over with that I went straight back to my ex just because I missed him so much. Now I'm with someone that I really do love and care about but at times feel so unhappy, to make it worse I think about my ex all the time, what he's doing or if he's seeing someone else or if he's in town.. Constantly. I don't know maybe it's just cause he's been in my life so long. Do you think this is just something I should get over eventually and move on? Or worth leaving this person and making it work with my ex?

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I know exactly how you feel. My high school boyfriend and I were together for 3 years, the last year, off and on. I ended things abruptly at age 19 to date someone else, and for the next 3-4 years, horribly regretted how I treated him and punished myself for it. I've now been with my husband for almost 5 years 😍, but every once in a while, something, a song or smell, will bring back a memory of him and make me feel bad all over again. For me, it's not that I want him back because we are both very different people now. It just makes me sad that I did what I did to him because he didn't deserve it. It took me a long time to forgive myself, but I feel so much better now. I have no idea if he forgave me, but I can't control that.

Everyone is different. Give yourself time. You know yourself better than anyone. Maybe there is a reason for why the two of you are together. Maybe go talk to someone. I went to a professional because I was tired of talking to my family and friends about it and it really helped to talk to someone who was bias. One thing she had me do was write a letter to him and say everything I wanted and needed to say, put it in an envelop, and burn it. It really helped to get all my feelings out on paper. I hope this helps you in some way. I'm here if you need someone to talk to!

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Let go

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Sounds like there was no closure. If you truly like love the one you're with and see a future together, then you have to let go of the past. Be happy and enjoy what you have now. Stop wondering about the what if. Live in the present, not the past. 😊

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I never understood people who got back with their exes. There is a reason you broke up and why it didn't work the first time. Don't sabotage what you have with someone now, to waste time on someone it already didn't worth with.

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Tbh I'd let go I was in a relationship with someone for 12 years on n off myself n we split up n I got over him bc I found someone better, I thought it was going to b hard but it turned out not to b only hard Part is we do have a 7 year old together so we still have to communicate.. It will get better just stay with who makes u happy n if u c a future with that person... U can't move on happy if ur stuck on ur ex... Good luck

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Let it go and move on. Don't ruin a future over a past. I agree that you need closure but sometimes you don't always get it.

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