We haven't spoken about my baby shower in about 2 weeks

Back story.... I wanted to have a baby shower at home and invite all my family and friends.. however when it comes down it to it I have to compromise and only have a small amount of people. I couldn't narrow it down, so I just accepted I wouldn't be having one.

Today I ask my boyfriend if he wants to come to my cousins co-ed baby shower. All he heard was baby shower and asks when my baby shower is again (someone clearly wasn't listening to me). I explain that it's my cousins baby shower and he moans about me changing my mind when he first asked if I wanted one.

He doesn't understand why I'm not going ahead with it now. 1. There's no time to plan for one when my due date is in exactly a month. 2. When my family have gatherings everyone is invited. Even if I was to invite females only the number would be too high, my family is big. He is suggesting I invite only 2 aunts and my favourite cousins because ' people will understand there's no space' (we have the space which is another story all together).

He says they can all come to the christening. I know how my family are and I think it would be out of order to exclude and pick and chose like that. It wouldn't look nice cos this isn't how my family roll. I've explained it so many times and even suggested we have a christening, but he's asking why we can't have both 🙄🙄🙄

Am I not making any sense?? Cos dude is driving me up the wall.