I did the whole hospital thing with my first daughter. They gave me stadal and the epidural and I guess because of my size I didn't feel anything at all. My friend is a doula and she's got me so interested in home births that I'm 39 weeks almost with a blow up pool in my living room! I didn't have much voice in the hospital, but midwifery an home birth focus on mom and baby's wellness. Your voice is the most important. I haven't even delivered my 2nd daughter yet and I can say that I will never be doing the hospital shindig again. I'm in love with midwifery.