I recently found out my husband has gone to strip clubs (I dont know when or how many times) behind my back. I live in a city where stip clubs are all nude, lap dances are in private rooms and as per a few friends that have worked in strip clubs, its not uncommon for guys to pay for extras including sex. When I tried to ask him about it he got mad and defensive and didn't say much else. Now its driving me crazy thinking he paid for extras.. Is him getting a lap dance cheating? I know its not, but I did the same thing to another guy or a male stirpper did the same thing to me im sure he would feel disrespected.