Birth experience

Ladies.... I think our birth experiences are truly important. I recently had one that did not turn out how I hoped it would -which I know is common with babies since they come when they want and how they want, and it’s never quite what you expect. However, my main struggle ended up being my husband of all things... he has been my coach before so I didn’t feel the need to prep him before I went into labor, I knew he’d jump in and be there for me when I needed him, just like he was when our daughter was born... but he wasn’t! He slept through so much of my labor, I would catch him sleeping between contractions and the only thing that would wake him up was me squeezing his hand. He didn’t give me words of encouragement, no affection, no back rubs or pep talks, he was just “there” I had to ask for his hand too. Then after my son was born he didn’t love on me and tell me he was proud or anything... I went all natural and it was the worst pain and hardest labor I’ve ever been through (3rd baby) When we went to our postpartum room after, all he did was sleep there too, he hardly helped me with anything and I felt so alone. I was super disappointed and didn’t know how to react. It’s been 7 weeks now and when I mentioned it to him he got super defensive, so I dropped it. HOW can I come back from this?!? I feel so let down, and I hate looking back on my sons birth and remembering the lack of support from my husband 😢 even during my recovery he was not sensitive or caring.

He was super excited about our baby though, and he’s very helpful with him, and loves him so much. I feel like I was just there to do my job.