Why would he date a fat girl when he could get a hot girl?

Question

Let me vent to you girls a little bit, just last night I went out with an ex coworker. He’s a nice guy, simple and funny, and I had one of my friends ask for his number and then he asked and wanted to know if I wanted to hang out. I’m a direct and honest person so I straight up told him that I think he’s cute and that’s why I wanted his number and he told me that he thinks I’m really cute too. We went out to dinner and then watched a movie. Now let me tell you, he’s a hot guy, he works out a lot and it DEFINITELY shows, he has huge arms and it’s just really built throughout (no he doesn’t skip leg day, lol). And now let’s go over to me, I don’t workout, I’m a chubby girl weighing around 169 lbs and on top of that I’m short. 
I was kind of nervous but when we got there we just talked all through dinner and he’s so easy to talk to, we talked about everything, and he’s so funny and cute and his personality definitely matches up to his looks. But when we were talking I couldn’t help but wonder what was a hot guy like him doing with a chubby girl like me? And I don’t know if I was imagining it but people were looking at us kinda wondering the same thing. The thought definitely bummed me out and it kind of showed, I know it did because the conversation kinda died down after that and I hate that I did that. 
I’m just mad at myself for thinking that and putting myself down so bad for something like this. I’ve always hated my body, and I’ve been trying to loose weight for so long but I can’t, and being with him last night made me feel bad but for him because he could be out there with a beautiful girl and instead he was there with me. I know he thinks I’m cute but still, I feel like a fool next to him. 
Have any of you girls went through something like this before? If you have, what did you do?

Answer

You have to remember other people don’t always see you the way you see yourself. It’s also likely nobody looking at you was even thinking that. It was in your mind so you were probably projecting. Whether it works out with this guy or not, you have to work on loving yourself. Having poor self esteem will affect your relationship with yourself and others in detrimental ways. I’m sure you are beautiful and have a lot to offer that doesn’t even have to do with physical appearances.

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I went through something similar with my now fiancée, he was thinner, fit and a lot more attractive than I am, I’m not chubby I’m big. It took a while for me to gain confidence that he actually wanted a relationship from me, once I was comfortable it was smooth sailing from there. I’d like to say we both ended up working together to be slim and fit, but we definitely went the other way around 😂😂😂