Do you wait until BFP or AF to tell your SO the outcome?

Cymbeline • 💕🎆🎆🎆🎆💕
We'll try again this month after I finish my mc from chemical pregnancy. I'm on CD4. Last month, we did the whole journey together ~ faint lines, spotting etc. As we had told no one whom we knew, we had only each other for my brief pregnancy and chemical. When the time comes around this month, I'm considering a TWW instead of early testing and also hopefully surprising him with a BFP instead of a flurry of faint lines. What do you ladies do/recommend? Part of me doesn't want to bear the wait alone but part of me thinks it would be less stressful to keep things to myself unless BFP or AF. I feel like I failed. Stupid, I know, but real nonetheless.