We’re not trying after our miscarriage last month (we don’t have the mental/emotional ability to actively try) but for medical reasons my doc wants to know when I ovulate since we’re not preventing and we’d like to avoid another miscarriage). It’s a possibility to be pregnant this month even before my period returns (looks like we BD the day before or 2 days before ovulation). And I have this feeling like, getting pregnant this soon would mean I’m trying to replace the baby we lost.

Like. We would be so happy, over the moon for another chance, but we’ll be terrified of if it happens again. After 2 miscarriages (5ish years ago and now), it feels kinda inevitable. The first time it could have been a fluke but the second time made it scary... I don’t want a third time to establish a pattern.