Am I bisexual? 😭😭

Question

So, I’ve been with men my whole life. And currently, I’m dating the most amazing man I’ve ever know. He’s incredibly generous, kind, understanding, beautiful, talented, and loving. However, now that we’ve turned into a long distance relationship, all of a sudden I’m questioning my sexuality. 
I’ve had lots of crushes on girls in my lifetime, but never acted on it. Now, it’s started to be something I’m thinking about all the time. I have no idea what to do right now as I don’t want to ruin something that could be so perfect with him, but I also know that if I don’t explore this right now, I may regret it forever. 
Advice, kind words, anything would be super appreciated!! 😭😭😭❤️

Answer

Hey Candice! Thank you for opening up about what you’re experiencing!! It’s something MANY bisexual/pansexual people have gone through, including myself, and you are not alone. Only you can define your sexuality- I highly recommend watching ‘The ABC’s of LGBT’ from Ash Hardell on youtube as a starting point! As far as you and the guy you’ve been seeing, I really recommend you talk to him about it thoroughly. He may not feel comfortable with you experimenting, but a good ally/partner will be willing to explore this with you through education, or going to gay bars, etc. Or you never know, he may be up to experiment with something like polyamory or an open relationship. I’ve never been with a woman sexually, and have only had relationships with men. But I know for sure that I am bisexual, and I’m at a place in my life where I would only be with male partners who were accepting of that part of me. If he rejects you or wants to end things just because you are unsure of your sexual identity, that will make things harder later. It really is better to know earlier in the relationship. But please make sure you talk about it with him only when you feel safe to do so. You’ve got this 💪 Best of luck to you