How did you make yourself emotionally strong enough to leave someone who you were in love with because you knew it was best?

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I need tips on how to get strong enough to leave. I know we’re not supposed to be together anymore. But he’s my best friend. I’m not ready yet and I don’t know when I will be

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Been there done that. Sticking around holding out hope that things will change, that he’ll change and realize that in the person that loves him unconditionally. That I’ll be there for him through anything and everything. Sucks realizing that you’re not enough for him....took me forever to realize that, too. So much stress and tears. Only thing that worked for me, as dark as it sounds, was anger. For whatever reason I finally sat back and realized how far I was willing to go for him while he was doing nothing for me. All that anger made it easier to cut things off. I asked him to never contact me again because I knew I wouldn’t be strong enough to turn him away. It’s kind of like ripping off a band-aid— a clean break. It’s gonna suck for a very very long time, and as much as you’ll probably get tired of hearing it, you will be okay

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If the relationship doesn’t help you as a person (happier, stronger, motivation) and is just toxic then its best to just let go. I’m in the same situation, it hurts. He still wants to call when he drinks or to talk to my daughter from my previous relationship but it’s just making things worse.! *Out of sight outta mind* p.s it’s been 2 weeks since I’ve seen him and I feel like I’m just now starting to pick myself up. I did my makeup yesterday for the first time.. 🤗

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I put other. Only because- 
My first marriage I was married to my hs sweetheart. We were bestfriends growing up. I always had other boyfriends but he was my best friend through everything! So we decided when we were 17 that we should just go for it. Worst decision ever. I say that, because we brought two kids into something that I knew in my heart should never be. I never was “in” love with him. I loved him to death, he was my best friend, but I had daddy issues and trust issues and he was the only guy I ever felt safe with. So our two children suffered through our divorce and we still talk almost daily, he and my current husband are good friends also. We will always be great friends but it wasn’t ever nor will it ever be a possibility to love him romantically.

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i usually start exploring other options.. distractions I guess you could say. you will realize that there’s more than just that 1 person.

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I was with my ex for three years after I realized I was worth more than being second best all the time. It was emotional abusive. I always felt like I wasn't good enough for him and he was embarrassed to even tell people I was his girlfriend. I've never had that before (I mean I'm not the hottest chick ever but at the same time I don't have low self esteem but that doesn't matter) no one should make you feel that way. Especially someone who has told you they loved you. Anyways 10 months later he shows up at my door wanting me back like a psycho. He stalked me and sent me flowers. Never once sent me flowers when we were together. Long story short I guess time was the key, I saw no future with him and felt like I was in a relationship by myself. I was actually happier single than I was with him and I feel to this day I let myself down by wasting three years of my life 😌 I'm in such a way healthier relationship but maybe I needed to experience that crappy relation to truly appreciate the man I'm with today.

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I feel like it’s easiest for me to break up with someone after a big change in my life like a move, going to college, job change, miscarriage etc. 🤷‍♀️ just stay calm and honest usually it’s not as bad as you build it up to be

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I was lucky that he had to leave the country and I cut all the ties. It was terrible for a month or so but eventually it died down

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I just left and left my feeling to come out when I was alone. It’s hard to do what’s right but when time goes by and you look back on it..... you will pat yourself on the back.

How did you make yourself emotionally strong enough to leave someone who you were in love with because you knew it was best?

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