Not as attracted to my boyfriend?

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Don't get me wrong, I think my boyfriend is adorable and I love him very much. My issue is that the reason I don't think I'm all that sexual with him is because I'm not as physically attracted to him as I once was. We've been dating for just over a year. I never want to give him oral, I just kind of do it because he likes it while I just wait for him to be done. We don't have sex a lot.

I really don't want to come off as being a b**** because while I am in love with who he is, physical attraction is important too and I feel like a year ago I was all about him and now he's more or less just cute to me...I want to go back to when I thought he was irresistible and I couldn't keep my hands off him.

I hate feeling like this😢

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Hot tub log cabin for the weekend get a Couple bottles of prosecco, both turn your phones of for the weekend take a board game and get to no each other again 💕🍸😍👫😘 xxx

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It's called being out of the bliss 😉 if you are still in love with who he is and still think he is adorable and cute.. That's about as good as it gets for the long haul.. I still look at my hubby and want to tear him up sometimes, and sex doesn't happen as often as we would like because we have a bunch of teenagers that have taken over our lives.. So when it does happen it's great!.. But still, there is nothing like that feeling you have in the beginning.. "The Bliss" .. I think you are feeling something very normal, and we can all relate.. Just remember even if you get someone new, the bliss will end with that one too.. Haha, that's a good rhyme 🙊

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I was like that at one time now weve been together for 10 yrs i didnt do any extra stuff jus stayed @ work longer and hung out w/friends more until one day out of nowhere i jus cuddnt stop kissin his face and it hasnt changed yet

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That happens sometimes. It happened with my Hubby of 5 years (been together for 10) it isn't as exciting as it was when we first started. Try mixing it up a bit. Most couples do the same positions in the same order every time. Try looking up different kinds and pick out ones you want to try. For my birthday he got me 365 days of sex with a different Khama Sutra position to try for that day. If he's cool with toys games or sexy night attire give it a shot. Sex should be fun! Make it that way!! Happy F**king! 😜

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You are part the honey moon stage lol...if you really love him sex shouldn't be that important. My bf and I have been together 9 months and I love him more everyday but we don't have sex as often anymore. Not because we don't want to but we are so tired, when his hair grows out I think he looks trashy and I'm not as attracted to him but once he gets it cut its like the beginning of the relationship again!! Talk to him about it, see if there is a way you can light the spark again!!

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I've been wit my boyfriend for almost 2 yrs. At the beginning of our relationship we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Nd nw we hardly c each other bc we r always workin nd to tired to do nething. Well I'm not after a 15 hr day. I want to have sex, bc he doesn't. But everyday he does remind me why I fell so n luv wit him. Nd it's like I fall n luv wit him over nd over everyday. So u mite have to find that spark again. Wat made u so attracted to him. That's pretty much wat I do every single day. Nd it works for me. It wouldn't hurt to try it.

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That's called a new relationship energy. Just about everything is more exciting in the beginning, and it's totally normal to have less interest later on. This is why people do things to spice up their sex lives.

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If nothing seems to help it seems like it has just run its course.... Sexual chemistry is important for a relationship and it's not fair to you or him to keep going. It must be hard to get through giving him a bj when it's not a turn on! You are very kind and can tell you care for him. If it is more like a friend then perhaps you can both move on and part ways from a good place, rather than a bad break up.

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I felt the same way. My isshe was when I first met my fiance I didnt find him attractive but his personality was great. I ended up still talking to him. He started getting different hair cuts and started dressing differently. Loosing weight. Well he than attracted me so much more to him. But through it all his personality was great and his smile and eyes. When we got engaged he gained some weight again and it changed him a bit but i still loved him. Thought about his eyes and smile. And how we met that always brought me back to the spark in our relationship.  But i know you feel i felt the same.

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Did he change anything up recently? When my husband got his haircut last month he was less attractive to me briefly(way shorter than normal)but I adjusted pretty quickly. Could just be out of the honeymoon phase. If you love him, maybe actively try to think about one thing you really find attractive about him(eyes,humor, arms...there's gotta be something that first attracted you) then focus/think about that for a little while. Maybe that will help you get some of that physical spark back.

Not as attracted to my boyfriend?

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