For the last week or so my boyfriend has been extra jumpy with me, meaning, one small thing makes him jump down my throat and jump to the idea that I’m making an assumption or a false conclusion over something that I’m not.

We’ve been together going on 3 years and although he’s always been one to get irritated rather quickly, he hasn’t always been so jumpy and quick to point fingers.

We do live together, have a puppy, and run our own business together. But I don’t know what it is, what I’ve done, or how to handle it anymore. I stay as calm as I can considering the situations, but sometimes it’s extremely hard to stay calm when someone is jumping at you and blaming you for making assumptions and saying things that aren’t true.

Don’t get me wrong, he’s a great guy, but when he’s upset or irritated, there’s no in-between and no rational until he’s calmed himself down, and even then at times it’s hard to rationalize and talk to him on a deeper level.

I don’t know if it’s stress, if I’ve done something, or what, but it’s breaking my heart not knowing what changed and not being able to successfully talk about things in a timely manner.

We do have what we call honest hours where we just sit and pour our hearts out to each other. But they don’t happen as often anymore.

Also, I should probably add in that I’m very insecure and I haven’t have the best past track record with relationships or family. My parents divorced when I was 5 or 6, and it takes awhile for me to fully trust someone (and others). I’m 24 now.

Any advice on what I should do, could do, or maybe even any ideas on what could be going on?