Is a women who is a complete door Matt and allows a man to literally do whatever he wants (cheat, lie, walk of on your kids over and over, have children to another women leave you for her for 2 years etc) not really off putting for a man. How can he have respect and love and care for her when she can't even love herself. Even tho he stays for his own selfish gain, (afraid of being alone, easy, can do what he wants, play a family life) does he not find her unattractive that he has literally done so much and she just accepts it all?