My husband and I like video games, we enjoy playing them and I like to watch him play. I like when he plays because he enjoys it and he spends time with his friends.

But our routine for the entire year has been like this....

1. I wake up at 5am

2. Go to work at 7am

3. I get home from work at around 4-5pm

4. he makes dinner or I make dinner

5. we eat dinner in front of the tv

6. we clean up and back to the couch

7. I fall asleep on the couch every night at around 8:30-9

8. I wake up to him playing at around 10pm and I go to bed

9. He plays until 2am, which I wake up to because I’m a light sleeper

10. Repeat all over again.

This has been our routine all year, for a couple of exceptions.. before he’d start playing at 8pm when I was awake, and I told him that I wanted to spend time with him and he now he waits for me to go to sleep to play.

Yesterday, while I was at work I messaged him about it again, that we don’t do anything, I just fall asleep and wake up to him playing - it’s the same routine as before, he just waits for the wife to go sleep. And he became defensive, that he doesn’t want to go to bed at 9pm because he’s not tired, which I get. My issue is not him playing, but the frequency. I tell him this and he always denies it, it’s like I can’t really talk to him because I’m always wrong... idk it feels like we’re roommates sometimes.

Help? Thoughts? Am I wrong for feeling like this?