At first, we weren't going to reveal it. Our reasoning is that we don't like gender specific items being pushed on young children. We just want our child to find their interests on their own. Our family and friends literally begged us to tell the gender, and they promised to accommodate our wishes. They said they would only get get neutral things. So I said we could tell everyone.

Immediately everyone went back on their word. My father said he wanted a girl and couldn't wait to put her in pink frills and dainty cloths. I've been knitting gender neutral cloths and my mother said she would only start making baby cloths after she knew what gender it was so she could make it more masculine or feminine. Everyone at our church is telling me to tell them the gender so they could start getting things.

I want my child to decide. If my boy decides he likes blue, football, and mud that's great, if he decides he likes princess Elsa, fashion, and makeup, that's great. Same if it is a girl. I just feel like no one is taking me seriously except my husband.

So the big question is, should I go ahead and tell everyone and pray they respect our wishes, or should I assume they are going to push the gendered items and just keep it a secret?

*Update* I revealed the gender. He's a boy. I still asked everyone to keep it neutral, most people aren't. Also, my husband's and my family are filled with boys, and when it was revealed we were having a boy, many people suffered gender disappointment. I got a lot of "please try again, we need a girl!" And my father said "maybe we'll be lucky and the doctor got the gender wrong, girls are just so much sweeter" So I regret my decision. If there ever is a next time, I will definitely not reveal the gender. Also, we picked a name for him, and that's been nothing but trouble. My husband's grandmother was like "no you can't call him that" and my mother tried to convince me of a different name. Yeah I'm done with just about everyone at this point, everyone is just as rude as they can be about our child and our choices. I love my boy and his name so everyone can chill.